Thursday, October 9, 2014

What modesty means to me!


Good morning my belles,

I decided to do something a little different today. After cruising other blogs finding nominations for the Liebster Award, I also stubble across blogs about modesty. Most look and sound wonderful but others came across as being harsh on females. By calling them nasty things and making them feel like nothing. Some writers statements would also cause many young women to develop low self esteem and body insecurities by pointing out their curves or lack of curves as being sinful or distasteful. Writers' long list of don'ts may cause young women to not want to accept Christ into their life because they feel inadequate to keep all of those rules.  I feel that those bloggers and writers who write or believe in that manner are not mean people but fail to understand what the term modesty really is.

1 Timothy 2:9-10English Standard Version (ESV)likewise also (A)that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 10 (B)but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.

Modesty according to most definition is in moderation, simplicity, or a way of behavior or character. I believe the latter gets into the root of the word modesty. Modesty is something that starts as an inside job.  Once you give your heart to Christ you want to do whatever you can to be pleasing to God and allow him to change you. You do this by reading the Bible, praying, and listening to word of God. Doing this helps you to have a pure heart and mind. Once this happens you have a better understanding of what God desires and what it word says. For example lets look at this scripture.

This is where most people get their long list of articles of clothing and hair style a woman should not wear.But in reality the writer Paul is telling women not to spend all of their money and time on just looking good but to use it to help benefit someone else. The same can also be said of men and their spending habits but that it is a whole other discussion.  So modesty is about having a right attitude or behavior that is not vain in only thinking about oneself. But to have a pure heart that cares about others. 

1 Peter 3:3-4 ESV / 187 helpful votes

Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.

This is another used as a way to say do not braid your hair or wear jewelry but Peter is saying do not let your appearance be your sole focus. But to seek being a good person that is gentle and not mean. A gentle and kind person is more favorable in God's eye sight than any ol' beauty. 

So even though modesty may seem like it is only about being covered up it is about focusing more on God. To have a desire to be his representative inside and out. So by keeping one's heart pure we will be able to have a modest appearance that pleases God first and foremost. 


Lanae Bond 


  1. Sounds interesting. Will put this on my list. :)

    1. It is interesting but I would like to add that during Peter and Paul's time the mark of a woman of ill repute actually had braids and tons of jewelry on. She actually had so much that you could hear her before she even entered a room. But now the mark of a woman of ill repute has changed with the exception of wearing too much jewelry. So a modest woman wears jewelry and other things in moderation.

  2. Oh, miss, what a great post! Yes, modesty starts in the heart and is reflected outwardly. What many fail to understand is that we can sanctify ourselves in the sense of what we know is wrong in our lives, to stop doing it; separate from it. But it is a choice, not by force. The NT picks it up and tells us, "…and the very God of peace sanctify you wholly…" What you don't know to do, after you've moved in faith and started cleaning out your closet based on your knowledge of present sin or weights, God will come in and sanctify you wholly.

    Leviticus 20:7 Sanctify yourselves therefore, and be ye holy: for I am the Lord your God.

    1 Thessalonians 5:22-23
    22 Abstain from all appearance of evil.
    23 And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

    For example, if a woman comes to see and understand the requirement of God to start covering up her cleavage, she can step out in faith and cover up more. God will help her with the rest because she has responded in faith. I'm a testimony of this very thing!!

    Many people misinterpret the verses you mentioned as though they say thou shalt not wear your hair braided, etc. If that was the case, one of those verses would mean we can't put on clothes or have changes of clothes. Yikes! But the idea is to not allow these vain things that fade, the things the Gentiles seek after, become our identity or fixation. We can enjoy lovely things without going overboard. The Holy Ghost produces temperance—self-control. We should not overdo eating, talking too much, wearing an inordinate amount of jewelry, or focusing so much on our hairstyles we have no time to pray, obsessing about this or that, worrying, etc. However, since God is wise, He knew He'd have to send instructions to us women to not get caught up in our looks. (Yes, men can get caught up too.) But remember what happened to Jerusalem in the OT. She began to trust in her own beauty (and used her fame to become a prostitute). The sin was not that she was beautiful or had all the lovely jewels and raiment God gave her [even God said He gave her earrings], but she got lifted up in pride. She TRUSTED in her own beauty—which God said was perfect through His comeliness. She essentially took the glory God gave her and used it to sin. God punished her for that. [Ezekiel 16] We may have been this type of woman, or perhaps our hearts bleed for other women we see walk in this way. Some modest fashion ambassadors mean well, and in their zeal may hurt others. I also had to learn to do this with another depth of meekness and godly fear, and I'm sure I + everyone need more. Pray for others that meekness may increase. See! It IS a heart thing. Kudos, love! Keep posting!

    1. Thank you and totally agree with your statement. Plus you know your Bible which is refreshing to see!


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